Frequently Asked Questions

"Fathers By Fire encompasses a myriad of aspects, perhaps best characterized as a way of life and fraternity. When our founder embarked on the creation of what would eventually be known as Fathers By Fire and the associated "Technology," he found himself at the lowest point of his entire life. Overwhelmed by the pain of his divorce and facing a family court that had stripped him of everything , he was unable to have any contact with his children. It was amidst this turmoil that he began researching a solution.

Through perseverance and an unwavering love for his children, he developed and tested a program that not only extricated him from the legal battle but also positioned him to daily pursue his life goal: "... to eliminate the negative effects of divorce/separation on children." - Joey Sprawka. Within this broader context, Fathers By Fire was born."

We provide a comprehensive range of services, including support, guidance, motivation, and  training. Our assistance extends to helping you navigate the family court system and gaining a deeper understanding of its operations as well as navigating the relationship with the mother of your children . Additionally, we offer courtroom support, and limited private investigation services. Concerned about location or availability? Schedule either an online or in-person meeting.

For a more immersive and life-changing experience, we present an 8-week, in-person program followed by a 24-hour crucible. Are you ready to reclaim your life?

That's the big question! Perhaps a better question is: What is this worth to you? Having experienced the challenges firsthand as fathers in this battle, we understand the struggles you face. Whether it's court-ordered "child support," alimony, or other difficulties, we've been through it.

Given this understanding and our commitment to this cause, we simply request that you have some skin in the game. After honestly assessing your personal situation, we ask for a donation. This could be anywhere from $0.05 to $500k, or anything in between. Recognizing that this is a demanding program that will challenge you in unprecedented ways, we suggest your donation be substantial enough that you feel invested, ensuring you're committed to seeing it through and getting your money's worth.

Whether or not you choose our program, you can always support our cause by purchasing one of our shirts!"

 Men live  in a society that doesn't encourage us to express ourselves authentically. Throughout life, we often find ourselves without a place or men around who we can genuinely share our thoughts and feelings with. This lack of connection is taking a toll, with men tragically taking their lives over these struggles.

To tackle this problem, we emphasize confidentiality. What is discussed or done in our circles stays confidential, providing a secure environment for you to be yourself and open up without fear of judgment or repercussions. 

It's crucial to consider our founder's context, which revolves around the well-being of children.

With this in mind, and with the explicit permission of the applicant, we leverage available resources to scrutinize allegations, court documents, arrest records, and other pertinent information. Our thorough review aims to determine if a man has been wrongfully accused and is genuinely committed to becoming a Father By Fire. Our resources extend beyond borders, accessing buried records and information not always readily available to the courts and local agencies. In essence, if we can find out what you ate for lunch last week, we won't struggle to determine if you pose a danger to your children.

Following our assessment, if we conclude that the allegations against you are likely factual, not only will we decline your entry into our program, but in some cases, we may share our findings with local authorities."